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Are You My Mother? by Alison Bechdel

imageLast summer, I read and thoroughly enjoyed the graphic novel + memoir Fun Home by Alison Bechdel. The novel depicts the author’s relationship with her father and how she came to understand her sexuality and identity. While I really liked the book, I lamented that the author barely detailed her relationship with her mother. I was thrilled to learn that Bechdel had written and illustrated another book, Are You My Mother?, as a somewhat-sequel to Fun Home. It’s a “somewhat-sequel” in that it’s definitely a companion to Fun Home and alludes to the other book, but doesn’t continue the story chronologically.

I absolutely LOVED Are You My Motherand found it to be superior to Fun Home. That said, I do think you need to read Fun Home first in order to get the most out of Are You My Mother? This graphic novel grapples with Bechdel’s distant, yet extremely close relationship with her mother (who recently passed in 2013) — her mother kept her at a distance as a child, but called her extremely frequently as an adult, discussing trivial things instead of delving into the intimate details of their relationship, as is common for a lot of people with somewhat strained parental relationships.

The distance and childhood detachment was likely a product of the societal and psychological norms of childrearing which existed in the 1960s/1970s, something that Bechdel spends a lot of time exploring within the novel. As someone who has spent a lot of time pondering my own relationship with my mother since she died when I was a child, I ultimately spent a lot of the time considering the psychological theories (drawn mostly from psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott‘s beliefs) that Bechdel shared in relation to my own experiences with my mother. I found the book extremely enlightening and I enjoyed the reflective mood that it launched me into. If you’re someone who doesn’t want to spend time analyzing your own maternal relationship, I don’t recommend this book to you, but if that idea piques your interest in any way, you won’t regret delving into the graphic novel. 

Because of my #FindABook project, I’ve gotten into the habit of giving away all of the books that I physically own after I finish them in order to eliminate clutter in my apartment. Since living in New York for the last 1.5 years, I’ve only wanted to hang on to two books and Are You My Mother? is one of the books that will stay in my lifelong collection and that is the strongest endorsement that I can give to a book.

While I was still on a reading high from finishing this book, my neighbor and podcasting partner (shameless plug for my podcast, Friday Night Lives, about the TV show Friday Night Lights) and I got tickets to see Fun Home, the broadway musical, on stage for later this week! I cannot wait to see the first novel in action. Bechdel’s work is a true treasure and I’m sad I didn’t bring it into my life sooner! Maybe I’ll even write a review about the musical…

Publication Date: 1 May 2012 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Format: Paperback.

Author: Alison Bechdel web/@twitter/facebook

#findabook and autumn round up!

Long time, no post! As I mentioned in my last post, I took a much needed hiatus to focus on studying for a major test. Now that I’ve taken the test, I need to shift my energy to writing applications related to that test which means I still don’t have as much time as usual to be reading books and reviewing them for my blog.

Amy's #findabook

When I’m not burrowing my head in application land, I’ve begun circulating a side project that I developed for the blog called #findabook. In order to eliminate clutter from my life, I’ve decided to put books I own in public places to share them with strangers and friends. In order to kickstart the project, I’ve sent a few books to friends via mail (fellow book blogger Amy was sent Bright Lines; my pal Shelly in D.C. was sent Fun Home; my longtime friend Lisa in Austin was sent Brain on Fire; my coworker Loulou was given Americanah) and left a few in public spaces (The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-timeGone Girl, and The Martian). If you find one, please leave a comment and let me know what city you found it in and your name and be sure to pass along the book to someone new when you’re done! Speaking of projects, I’ll also be launching a podcast soon, but more on that later…

I’m still roughly on track to finish 52 books in 52 weeks, aka the motivation that led me to create this blog initially, and I hope the coziness of fall encourages me to spend some more time reading. I’m currently toggling between two books for two different book clubs. I’m listening to My Brilliant Friend by Elena Ferrante and should have a review of that up in November and am reading 200 pages a month of Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace for a book club I’m leading. I’m thinking that I’ll post reviews of each of the 200 page chunks since it’s such an undertaking! Have any of you finished or attempted to finish this book before? I’m finding that the shared responsibility of tackling it for my book club has really motivated me through it. Feel free to join me digitally by completing the first chunk by early November or reading the first 400 pages by early December! If you’re joining, let me know and we can have an online discussion about what we’ve read so far!

During my absence, I was also tagged in some fun book blog related things (thank you Amy, Maryan, Chloe, and Alyssa!) that I’ll get to when I’ve officially left application land. I hope you’ve all had swell falls and have been able to cozy up to more books than I’ve had the chance to!

fun home by alison bechdel

funhomeatthebeachAs someone who hasn’t read many graphic novels (aka I’ve only read Persepolis prior to this), I wasn’t sure if I would like Fun Home by Alison Bechdel. I brought this book along with me to a weekend getaway at my friend’s earlier this month and it was the perfect beach read. By that, I mean, I was able to finish the novel after devoting a single day to reading it at the beach and it was absolutely lovely! If you’re looking for a book to read for a few hours on a getaway, plane, or train, I definitely recommend taking this along with you.

Fun Home is a graphic novel written by the oh-so-talented Alison Bechdel. Before reading her graphic novel, I wasn’t familiar with any of Bechdel’s illustrated works. I knew of Bechdel because of the now legendary “Bechdel Test” though Bechdel has since said she doesn’t actually deserve recognition for the creation of the test (she does deserve recognition for it becoming more known). I knew of the title because of the Broadway musical adaptation’s successful Tony award wins and decided to purchase this book to find out if I wanted to see the musical performed.

The novel is autobiographical and details Bechdel’s childhood growing up in rural Pennsylvania and details her exploration of self, sexuality, and gender identity from childhood through her early college years. The novel mainly focuses on her relationship with and interpretation of her father and concludes with her assessment of her father’s death and impact upon her life. While this book is autobiographical, I felt like it spent more time devoted to exploring her father as a character than detailing her own life and, at times, felt more like an exercise for Bechdel to explore how she actually felt about her relationship with her father. I found myself annoyed at the lack of exploration of Bechdel’s mother’s role in her life, who seemed like she often received the short end of the stick, but, as I’m writing this entry, I found out that Bechdel wrote a companion graphic novel entitled Are You My Mother? which I look forward to reading soon.

As someone with a complicated relationship with my parents who is seemingly constantly analyzing the impact of my parents upon who I am as a person today, I greatly enjoyed reading Bechdel analyze her father’s impact and her attempts to separate who he was as a person from who he was as a father. While I enjoyed the parental exploration, my favorite parts of the novel involved Bechdel’s exploration of sexual identity and gender exploration, which I think particularly lends itself to being told through illustrations. Bechdel perfectly describes the process of how she came to understand a piece of who she was sexually and that was the highlight of the reading process for me.

This book is dark and explores some heavy things that you might not expect from a graphic novel – “fun home” is short for funeral home, after all. If you’re okay with authentic storylines that are brushed with grimness and are at all interested in a young person’s exploration of sexual and gender identity, I recommend reading this book.

Do you have any recommendations for other graphic novels that I should try out? I just put a hold on Are You My Mother? from my local library and am interested in exploring other graphic novels if they come with a good recommendation!

Publication Date: 8 June 2006 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Format: Paperback.

Author: Alison Bechdel web/@twitter/facebook